20211101 Newsletter

What is good about being Gay, Not waging a war with trans, not being an auxillary to the TERFS.

Nov 01, 2021

NOT WAGING A WAR WITH TRANS

It looks like the Lesbian and Gay Liberation Front is all about fighting what is called gender ideology. They sent out an email and their three new pamphlets all about trans: one on the topic of puberty blockers, one on “dealing with pronouns,” whatever that is, and the third is “the issue with gender.”

So, it looks like their agenda begins and ends with fighting against trans and I don’t think there is much “Gay” in their agenda. Looks like they are more an auxiliary to TERFS.

Again, I am concerned to defend the Gay community from trans aggressions and excesses, but I don’t want to get pulled into every issue about trans. I will be observing the fighting between the two groups, but from a perspective of specific Gay issues.

I also want to get back to focusing on other Gay issues and theorizing and constructing a Gay centric thought.

GAY LIBERATION FRONT has become LESBIAN AND GAY LIBERATION FRONT – They don’t understand initialism.

The Lesbian community is of course a community that with which we have many issues to be allies. The Gay community and Lesbian communities face many common enemies also. HOWEVER, this is how initialism started. First it was Gay, then it was Lesbian and Gay, then it was Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans which is a lot to say and it became, LGBT, then LGBTQ, LGBTQIA, and then more and more letters so it is LGBTQ+, LGBTQIA+ and even then, some are having initialisms with 14 letters.

This is starting down the same road which got Lesbian and Gays facing trans aggressions and having establishment groups backing them up. This is where the Gay community has to listen to pansexuals supremacism, and have asexuals want to “tone” down Pride Day parades. This is how it leads to it not being a Gay Day parade or even a Lesbian and Gay Day parade, but a “Pride” day parade.

The fact is that the Lesbian and Gay communities are very different communities. However, they share some interests, they are different in many ways. Putting these disparate interests together in one group has its problems. Are both being served by the group’s agenda, do agendas conflict?

Again, this doesn’t mean a Gay organization shouldn’t be in an alliance with a Lesbian organization over a specific issue, or there couldn’t be a Gay and Lesbian group regarding a narrow specific issue, but as general groups having a general portfolios a combined Lesbian and Gay group is not a good idea. There will be differing interests, which is alright for seperate organizations, and there will be interests that might be in collision which won’t be harmonized or resolved just because it is a combined group. This needs to be comprehended and our organizations structured based on this understanding. We are homosexual communities, not heterosexual communities.

SIX GOOD THINGS ABOUT BEING GAY

1. You are freed from many social control systems. Most of the social control systems in society don’t fit you and often you are expelled from them. You are liberated.

2. You get to define your life. Freed from social control systems gives you the opportunity to define your life and you way of being. You can define your relationships. Raising children is an option and not something that social pressures will try to drive you to do. You will have the time and energy to pursue different life objectives of your choosing. Assimilationists want to get married, adopt children and somehow find a way to be included in all these social control systems. Being Gay is wasted on them. It is important to not think heteronormatively about how your life might be conceptualized and lived.

3. Being outside these social control systems you can see society clearly.

4. Being thrown out of these systems you are thrown in with the broad variety of people that exist in your society. At clubs, on apps, elsewhere you have the opportunity to meet the full spectrum of people in your society. Unlike straight life, the boundaries between social groups, class, race, religion, occupation, politics, nationality, in Gay society are much less if existing at all, and people do interact with others in other social groups that if they were straight likely never would. You get to exist in a social world that straights likely never will even partially like your world.

5. You are part of a society that is global in scope and everywhere and interconnected. The collective intelligence of people from thousands of backgrounds is applied to the Gay experience and these learnings are can be globally exchanged in the Gay community. The Gay cultural productions of the world are there for you to enjoy. You can read the poetry of Cavafy from Alexandria, Egypt or Mutsuo Takahashi from Japan or European Gay poets. You can enjoy the art work of Sadao Hasegawa from Japan or Tom of Finland from Finland.

6. The sexual opportunities for Gay men are tremendous. It isn’t just a lot more sex, which Gay men can have, it is also more types of sex. It is the ability to learn more about your individual sexuality since you can have more sex with different people and learn from your experiences. It is also a community that generally isn’t repressive about sex and willing to share information about sex. It is a community that can develop unique ways and its own venues for sexual experiences, such as bath houses and people wearing dog outfits while having sex.

This isn’t necessarily a complete list. I think though I need to start thinking about this. If we are going to have Gay centric thought, it needs to start out with what we think is great about being Gay.

Of course, there are Gay people, should I call them Gay or just same-sex attracted, which only want to meet Gays like themselves, want to be just like the straight people, no interest in global culture, and are fearful what the straight people might think about Gay sexualities and its expressions, especially its more uninhibited and innovative forms.

ASEXUAL COMPLAINING THAT THE GAY COMMUNITY DOESN’T REVOLVE AROUND HIM.

Stigmatizing language, upset Gay community likes sex. Feels oppressed.