20220314 Newsletter
Less writing about trans, Unsafe Sex, and a last for now report on some trans absurdities.
WRITING AND NOT WRITING ABOUT TRANS
I am not sure that there is more for me to write about trans. Sure some of the crazy things they say are amusing or make the mind reel, but in terms of resisting trans aggressions I am not sure how important it is that I report them.
There will have more and more absurdities they will say in the weeks to come, and reporting them needs to be done, but I don’t think it will accomplish a great deal. If you haven’t been convinced that trans extremism is extreme by now, or even six months ago, I don’t think you will be convinced now.
Also, it is a topic of little interest to the Gay community. In everyday life transmen have little impact. Yes a Gay man will still occasionally discover long after he should have been have been told of a trans identity, but even that doesn’t happen too often. At the most it is 30 minutes at the club lost cruising or a meeting up that is a waste of time.
I am not saying someone else shouldn’t be reporting trans absurdities, but I think enough are already enough people doing this and I have other things to do. Perhaps I might occasionally report some trans absurdities, but it will be just to show that the trans movement is continuing to be full of delusions, some of which are not good for the Gay community.
I don’t think you can go to the reddit group https://www.reddit.com/r/gaytransguys/ without finding one or two really astoundingly crazy expressions. One I came across recently is “natal dick.” Evidently there are penises you are born with and other penises you can acquire later.
However, if these delusions are in a dialog among themselves, it doesn’t impact me, it is only relevant when they start asserting that they are equivalents to Gays and when they are complaining that Gays won’t have sex with them. Then it is important to see how delusional their reasoning is.
Again, overall, trans aren’t impacting Gay men. Yes, there are offensive essays in Alphabet Soup publications, and yes, we have to hear terms like “cis Gay men.” But you aren’t going to be dealing with them in real life excepting trans catfishing, and likely that will happen only once at most.
With regards to other activists pushing back against trans, I see the same things mentioned over and over again. They are good to follow to see important developments on trans. What they are doing is fine, it just isn’t going anywhere in understanding how this mess came to be in the first place.
Also, their goals and my goals aren’t the same. I am not interested in restoring an earlier regime of the neoliberal management of desire. I am not interested in a shorter initialism. I want to overturn the neoliberal management of desire and I don’t want to be a part of any intialism.
This reporting on trans takes up time from looking at other issues and critically taking apart the whole 14 letter initialism. Today it is one letter dictating to the Gay community tomorrow it will be another letter dictating to the Gay community.
I will be publishing a position paper on trans. I had written one before and it was on Medium before I was shut down there. I will be re-writing it. It isn’t a big priority though. My next chapter in my book about being Gay has caught my interest and that is the priority.
This should be the last newsletter with significant writing about trans issues.
ON DEFINING WHAT IS UNSAFE SEX AND HAVING STRAIGHT PEOPLE SHAPE OUR THINKING.
This was published late last week.
TRANS ABSURDITIES
From starting to write the essay on my plan for trans reporting in this newsletter and finishing it I came across a few items. To purge them from my mind, I am going to report them to you. I am not sure what you will do to purge it from your mind.
Natal Dick: I don’t think you can go to the reddit group https://www.reddit.com/r/gaytransguys/ without finding one or two really astoundingly crazy expressions. The one I came across today is “natal dick.” Evidently there are penises you are born with and other penises you can acquire later.
It was in this posting by a commentator named vomit-gold. The post was about the fact that the transman was suspicious that his relationship with another guy wasn’t really homogender but the other guy was basically having sex with a women.
https://www.reddit.com/r/gaytransguys/comments/tb1vhf/partner_is_happy_to_have_a_break_from_dicks/
I am not sure so sure that this next item is an absurdity or not. I have this as example in that we shouldn’t reflexively consider transman same gender couples thoughts absurd. This next item is about a transman couple that identities as a Gay couple is sad because they are not comfortably able to have children. First it strikes you as absurd because Gay couples don’t expect to conceive children and it is one of the great positives of Gay life, we don’t have to worry about pregnancy. Being said about not getting pregnant shows that Gay transmen are not interchangeable with “cis” Gay men and the absurdity of such an assertion.
However, for the class of homogender transmen couples, this is really a thing of their world and an issue within their world. It could be a thing for them. Considering that homogender transmen couples as a separate class this would be an entirely reasonable issue for them.
Breasts: The question asked here is, “Is it possible to have another gay man attracted to a pre-op chest” Notice the phrase “another gay man” as if a transman with breasts still intact is a Gay man.
Most of the commentators tell the transman that it isn’t an issue, but a few say it is going to be an issue. I think a lot of transmen are not realizing that the “Gay” person they have a relationship with is actually someone into transmen in their ability to function sexually as women.
I think though going forward I am only going to check in on this reddit occasionally to see the thinking of transmen. Finding absurdities in this reddit is way too easy and there are a lot of them.